How to Use BDSM to Punish a Bottom

A top can use a spanking to punish a bottom, or it may be just for fun. Whatever the reason, the scene should be consensual and safe. This requires negotiation and the use of safe words.

Spanking can induce orgasms and even create psychological subspace. It’s similar to the feeling of euphoria some joggers experience after a long run.

Spankings

A lot of people who get into spanking fetish do so because they were physically abused as children. When someone you love and depend on hurts you, it can trigger intense negative feelings. These feelings are not integrable and must be suppressed. As children, these victims are also powerless to stop the abuse, since they depend on their parents.

When it’s time to re-engage these repressed feelings, they can be felt as pain and arousal through erotic spanking. It is important that the top and bottom keep in touch. They need to talk about how the scene will progress and what they are hoping to achieve with it. It’s good to have a safe word for when the bottom of the scene wants to end.

Wilde recommends that beginners start with a warm up and increase intensity only as they gain confidence. A warm-up gets the bottom’s blood flowing and helps them relax. It also gives the top a chance to gauge their partner’s reactions and how much intensity they can handle. She advises that the top should use body language to take cues, such as squirming or involuntary attempts to block them from the spanking.

As with bondage and tortures, spanking can be a very accessible sadomasochistic form. It’s a popular fetish even among those who don’t belong to the BDSM.

Orgasms

Orgasms are a climactic state of sexual arousal that is often accompanied with intense pleasure in the genital region. Orgasms are caused by the sudden release sexual tension that causes spasms to the pelvic muscles. This triggers ejaculation for females and spermatogenesis for males. Orgasms can occur during sex, masturbation, and even sleep. Orgasms are different for everyone and the sensations vary. Some orgasms are intense, while others can be mild or absent.

To collect data about BDSM, a qualitative content analysis was performed on written first-person narratives (testimonies) from Internet discussion boards. The sample was composed of cisgender women and men aged 18 or older. Participants were recruited using both convenience and snowball techniques through BDSM websites and groups on social networks. All respondents provided consent to participate in the study, and all responses were anonymous to avoid bias.

The majority of BDSM practitioners practice bondage-discipline, followed by dominant-submissive, sadism and masochism. Some individuals practice a combination of these practices, and some switch between roles. Regardless of their role, most practitioners report that the power exchanges in BDSM are arousing. Many practitioners find that painful stimulation is erotic, in addition to the arousal caused by power exchanges.

Spanking is a popular arousing technique in BDSM, as it can be both climactic and pleasurable. It is also an effective way to strengthen bonds between partners. The experience of being spanked can make people more aware of their body, and help them feel closer to one another. It can also increase feelings of safety and trust.

Moods

BDSM can evoke a wide range of emotions, whether you want to spank yourself or someone else. It can be both relaxing and fun. A good whack for the spankee can release endorphins and result in a natural high. Some kinksters report feeling more confident, connected with others, and less anxiety after a session.

BDSM is often associated with psychopathology, a view that was popularized by one of the earliest reference books on sadomasochism and sex-pain fetishes: Psychopathia Sexualis (1886). This is not the case. Modern academic studies of BDSM have debunked this idea and found that it can actually lead to favorable psychological characteristics in its practitioners, such as reduced neuroticism and extraversion.

Moreover, many people who are interested in BDSM practice have no history of childhood trauma. Moreover, many of them cite other reasons for their interest in pain play and m/s, such as the spiritual experience of bondage, the desire to express their power, and the ability to change their state of mind. Many people also claim that BDSM helps them deal with trauma because it allows them to reenact the abuse and rewrite their narrative from a position of agency.

Boundaries

Healthy boundaries may seem awkward at first, but they will become second-nature over time. According to psychologist Karin Ryan, boundaries are basic guidelines that establish how other people behave around you. They also allow you to distinguish yourself from other people and their needs. A physical boundary could be telling someone you don’t like being hugged too much or you prefer more space.

For some people, consensual BDSM spanking can be an emotionally arousing way to release negative emotions and feelings of powerlessness. It can also be a way to connect with another person, and for some, it can even lead to emotional intimacy. In addition, some individuals may find it sexually arousing to play with different power exchange dynamics.

Having strong, clear, and communicated boundaries are crucial for the safety of any sex activity, including BDSM spanking. Someone who does not respect your boundaries will not treat you well. You may feel uncomfortable or uneasy when someone violates your boundaries. Listen to your Spidey Senses, and trust your intuition if this happens. If they continue to ignore boundaries, you should communicate to them that their actions are putting your well-being at risk. You will take action to protect your self.